I have been pondering on this often for the last couple of years. I already knew internally and spiritually that racism wasn’t a good thing since I was a small child, but didn’t really give it much deep thought until the last few years. I love and accept everyone regardless of who they are. I do not believe in labels and stereotypes as that is dividing and degrading our Human-ness. We are ONE Family.
I’ve been giving it much more thought since our sons, Quinn and Ryan, have experienced racism on several occasions and told me about their experiences and I’ve been taking some classes that highlights historical and current racism like Indigenous Studies and Environmental Justice pre-law classes.
I have taught our sons the same belief that I have mentioned in the first paragraph. They have the same attitude as I do and loves making friends with who-ever, unfortunately, they have not had some positive experiences in the last year or 2. Just 2 days ago, the boys were walking home from the library and several ADULT men of color (for lack of better term) were in a car driving by and yelled at them with some expletives and then called them “white boys” – the boys were shocked and looked around as it was out of the blue and the boys just kept on walking ignoring them.
When the boys told me about it, they were like “Why do people act like that? We didn’t do anything and we’re not haters of anyone. This is really ridiculous!” Ryan told me that he is starting to feel like he doesn’t like a specific ethnic group because of constant experiences of racism towards him. I told him: “Don’t give into those feelings. You cannot paint a whole ethnic group based on a few bad “apples” so to speak and sometimes it’s the culture or society that teaches them this type of behavior and we should have love, mercy, compassion, and forgiveness for them because it is most likely that they’ve been treated awfully themselves by other ethnic groups and even each other in their own group. Just continue being an AWESOME & LOVING person and friend to others.”
So all these things got me thinking more – Racism is a CANCER because it wounds people and divides people further and it’s a never-ending vicious cycle which often leads to avoidable tragedies and violence. It’s also taught and it is NOT something that we are born with.
I understand that racism occurs today but it is something that was MAN-MADE for the purpose to cause exactly what is happening today BUT that doesn’t mean we should and can accept it. For example, Ryan can say that he is “justified” in being racist back because he was treated that way. But there is NEVER any justification to do something horrendous and atrocious back like racism or anything negative of any kind.
So there’s racism and then there’s counter-racism to at least “feel” like you got “payback” but really, how does that really solve anything for the better to do that? NOTHING. It’s all about destruction of each other instead of building each other up.
I do notice on Facebook and in other avenues that people use racist words to describe someone either in all seriousness or in jest, but still it is propagating racism by uttering these words to each other. What we need to do is to have racism and counter-racism become non-issues then it’ll just disappear because no one is doing it. That would be AWESOME!
I know it is very possible because like I said, racism isn’t something that we are born with, but learned. So if it’s learned, then it can be unlearned.
Point being: Is this the type of world we really want to be living in and passing onto our children and future generations? We need to CREATE a better and more loving world for our children and future generations and that starts with US. Individually and collectively.